I Believe Everything in life has a balance.

The key must be to find out what that balance looks like for you. I don’t think I’ll truly ever figure this thing out before I die but I plan to make the most of it. I’m sharing what I’m thinking about, maybe just in hopes that it helps you figure out your image of balance. And with hopes that my shared thoughts makes sorting through yours even a little bit easier.

So I wanna talk about living in the moment.

I think too often I find myself caught in what I’m not experiencing right now. Whether that be spending too much time dwelling on my past, or too much time thinking of where I’d like to be in my future. Or even worrying way too much about what other’s think of me. I can’t seem to escape those patterns.

But what I’m working on is overcoming that.

I was told when I was a teenage that we are our pasts.

We are our mistakes.

And that people don’t change. EVER.

But i refuse to believe that. I see change in myself everyday. I’ve seen major changes in myself over the last few months and years. Some changes for the better some for the worse but change nonetheless. I don’t believe the past has to be the determining factor in who you’re going to be. Rather it should give you guidelines into what traits you might want to grow out of, or experiences you never want to have again. But I don’t think you need to spend everyday thinking of your mistakes, or who you once were. Instead, You grow and you work on yourself in the now and experience the changes you want to make in your life. Give yourself time to time reflect on what’s working and what’s not. But forever experiencing your growth. Because I think if you spend all your time dwelling on shit that’s happened, you neglect yourself the chance to heal and grow in the now.

The Now.

I think the Present is all we have.

I guess the future will never really exist. Because every moment you live through will always be the “present”. So we can’t spend too much time thinking of what we hope to become.

Don’t get me wrong. There’s value in looking to the future. But once again there’s a balance.

So plan for the future. Planning is a very valuable tool. It helps you hash out goals you wanna set for yourself. Helps you create a vision of what you want to accomplish. Helps keep you motivated. Planning can help you work towards breaking habits. And it definitely helps in figuring out short and long term ambitions.

But be careful, because just how I think dwelling on the past can be dangerous, I think spending all your time planning can be as well. Make sure that you’re not so caught up in goals that you neglect yourself now. Don’t commit too much into what COULD be to end up being blind to the beauty and magic of everyday life. I can’t tell you how often I’m stuck wishing things could be different. Planning for it. Then get disappointed when things turn out different. And maybe if I didn’t spend my time wishing, I would be actively preparing myself for alternative versions of what could be.

But don’t completely lose the value of planning, even if what you plan doesn’t work out. Life is Strange. Unpredictable even. Just make sure, you know, that you don’t set yourself up for utter devastation if your plans don’t work out.

Find your balance.

I read a quote once that said, “Just handle what’s in front of you now, and the future will take care of itself. Otherwise, you’ll spend most of your life wondering which foot you’ll use to step off the curb when you’re still only halfway to the corner.”

And i guess the same can be applied to the past. You may be so caught up in which foot you used to step onto the curb that you bump into many obstacles on your way to the corner.

Everyday I focus on the now. Learning to commit 100% of myself into the moments I’m experiencing. Letting the moments seize me. So i don’t miss out on the beauty surrounding my every breath.

I hope everyone’s alright.

Love Y’all